It is a truth universally acknowledged that everyone has a friend who is trashing their own life.
If you don’t, well, bad news.
You are the friend.
I think that in life, generally, we come across loads of different people and befriend a portion of the ones we can tolerate. Some of them are neat, tidy perfectionists with realistic life goals and a clear path to achieve them. Some of them stumble a little, but eventually end up bumbling down a good path. And others…
Others never pull it together. It’s a sad, harsh reality. I’m at a point in my life where my friends are all either in college, like me, or working somewhere. Others…well, they may not be doing either of those things.
It sort of reminds me of baby sea turtles crawling their way into the ocean. Some make it to adult turtlehood. Some are tasty treats for other marine life.
Regardless, watching your less fortunate friends is hard. Most of the time, they’re not bad people, or people that aren’t willing to work hard. In my experience, it’s usually the result of a bad situation or poor guidance, and they can’t seem to work themselves out of it.
And since we care about those friends, and they’re still really good friends and loveable people, it’s hard to watch. It’s almost like an episode of The X-Factor. All you can do is cringe and hope the contestants make it out alive.
I have this tendency to be controlling. I want to grab the reins to my friend’s life and say, “You can have it back when you get the decision making under control.” But you can’t just do that. You can’t make decisions for somebody else. You can’t spend all of your time worrying about someone else’s life, because you can’t control it. At the end of the day, all you can do is be there for them.
I mean, not that I should control anyone’s life.
They would just spend all their money on coffee, anyways.
But what about you? Do you have a friend that’s trashing their life? No? Then maybe you need to pull it together. Comment down below and let me know. Or whatever. I don’t control your life.